Success Habits (Vol I) - Printed

Success Habits (Vol I) is now printed in the United States. You can buy this book on Amazon, BarnesAndNoble, Xlibris and many more websites.

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Read and enjoy Success!

-- Rugarthy

Success Habits (Vol I) - In Publication now

Success Habits (Vol I) is now in publishing. It will take approximately 60 days to hit all stores worldwide. It is going to be available in Paper Back, EBook, Kindle, Sony, Nook Formats and Audio Book.

All these formats can be found online with major stores across world.

More details to follow...

Success Habits (Vol I) - Collaborated with Amazon

Finally, we were able to iron out all the details in publishing out our first book; Success Habits (Vol I). We collaborated with Amazon to publish it in Kindle format. It should be available for readers by 1st February 2011.

Fear

Fear has two faces. One side of it is; that everybody needs, without it, humankind might not have survived. As it was very difficult in the Stone Age and early ages to survive without running away from dangers, so, that kind of fear saved humankind.

The other side of the fear is not good, which stops us from growing. And that side of the fear is our topic of the day. All most all of us have fears.

In our childhood, we were always fearless. We were not afraid of exploring new things. We had excitement; we inquired and cleared all our doubts even with strangers. But, when we were growing, we were taught to be afraid of people, parents, bosses and other unknown things.

We followed their instructions, learned and adapted. Now, we want to unlearn this unhealthy trait and become our true-selves. Learning is a lot easier rather than unlearning, as it requires mental effort to overcome habits. Nevertheless, we recognized that we need to change. Good, this is the right time to learn how we can become that true-selves again.

Somebody came up with False Evidence Appear in Real as abbreviation for FEAR. Is it false evidence that you are seeing in your mind’s eye as something real? Or it is plain unknown uncomfortable feeling that is stopping you from doing whatever you wanted to do?

How I understood and conquer most of the fear is to think it as Fault Exists And React. I feel that I am some what inferior (means Fault Exists in me) And I React the way I reacted in response to that feeling. Or there Fault Exists; And React to counter that fault. Some people overcome this fear by themselves. Some people need assistance and techniques to overcome it.

The best medicine to reduce or get rid of fear is to do whatever makes you fear or uncomfortable. This is not always easy to do as there going to be so many mental hurdles. Like, sky diving, riding roller coasters or proposing new relationships. For some people, it might be attending interviews for jobs or facing exams etc. Without really going thru some of these situations, no matter how much mental practice you do, it is difficult to overcome this kind of fear.

So, how can we break this barrier? You start with simple things. You get confidence whenever you do uncomfortable things; even the smaller ones. That confidence grows every time you perform (no matter whether you are successful at it or a total failure). Then, automatically, excitement replaces fear in due course. So, in the past when you were feeling fear for performing new things, now, you have excitement and will be waiting to do things.

Some brief examples on how you can overcome certain fears. If you have a problem to stand up in front of an audience, or to conduct meetings or to express yourself in front of a group of people, you can do this to overcome it. Take a topic that you want to present or talk in front of the audience. Prepare yourself with necessary content. In fact, any topic will do. All that matters is that you do the next step.
Take a webcam or a camcorder, get ready physically, mentally and start recording, and just imagine yourself standing before the group and deliver. You play and observe your body language, the feelings in your face etc. Prepare yourself again. Take your time; wait for a day or two. And do this practice session again. If you practice in this method for couple of times or so, your fear automatically dissolves. You will be relaxed when you see the camera recording.

You will talk and move freely. You feel like you are doing this kind of work for so long. It becomes easier and while you are talking in front of the camera, you will get new ideas.

Once you get little confidence, stop this method, invite your family friends whom you trust most, and deliver the content you practiced using the webcam. It is important that you take the same topic as you already did practice on that subject. Your fluency will improve, and interaction with audience improves a lot.

In fact, this is what I did to get rid of my fears. I always felt that there is a fault in me and I need to counter it by avoiding it completely or do some rubbish thing, this was my reaction. Then, I came up with this idea and it delivered.

Of course, there are multiple ways to solve any given problem. It is very important that you select the best possible solution, which resonates with you. If you cannot get an idea or a suggestion from any body, then, I suggest you to put in the effort to come up with new ideas and approach to help yourself. The new ideas you are coming up will always resonate with you, so, they work for you. Invest time in yourself to improve from day to day; even smaller changes will make big difference in one year. This is critical for your success and makes it easier to climb the success ladder.

When we become fearless again like our true-selves, it helps us tremendously and every body else, with whom we meet.

New Book

I completed writing my first book. I am contacting Gurus to write Forward, Praises. Also getting in touch with Copy Writers and Publishing Companies to launch it.

Probably the next two months will be very busy and trying to hit shelves by October third week.

More developments coming soon....

(My 7 yr old Daughter's work) The story of the Rainbow Fish - When she is feeling sad

Gayatri Tatwamasi Chintalapati


If you have not heard about the rainbow fish, it is a series talking about her. Listen while you read this book. Once upon a time, there lived in a sea a beautiful fish called rainbow fish. She gave each fish a shiny scale and she was happy in the before book. Let’s see what happens now.

One day, the rainbow fish was sleeping on its bed. There was a knock on the door. It was Kathleen, her friend. Kathleen’s nick name is Kath. Kath has invitations in her hand. Rainbow asked what’s all this? They are invitations, said Kath. “Invitations?” asked rainbow. Yeah, you can come to my new year’s party said Kath. Thank you, Thank you said Rainbow. I have invitations to pass out, could you help me? Sure, said Rainbow.

So, that is what they did. Rainbow and Kathy went to deliver invitations. Once they got to Rose’s house, since Rose has jealous of rainbow, Rose asked Kathy; Why are you asking this stupid little fish to deliver with you, asked Rose. “Stupid little fish?” yelled Rainbow and Kathy. What you are talking about, they said. Yeah, right, Rose said. Because she is nice to me and she helped me feel better when I was sad, shouted Kathy. Well, well, well, are you coming to my New Year party, said Kath huskily. Okay, shouted Rose. Okay, bye said Kathy and Rainbow.


So, then, they realized they have been late. So they passed out the invitations quickly and Kathleen and Rainbow went to Rainbow’s house, because, Kathy was very close to Rainbow. So, Kathy and Rainbow spent time together, then, Kathy and Rainbow changed their dresses and put on jewellery and got pretty. Then, they got in the car talking about Rose and how their party is going to be.

Finally they reached the hotel. They have to decorate the hotel before the guests come. So they did as fast as they could. Rainbow said, this is stupid, yes, said Kathy, restlessly. Yeah, right, said Rose coming inside. Why you are here, asked Kathleen huskily. Just then, Stacy entered. Another girl, said Kathleen. That’s rude to her, said Rose. Well, I am being nice to Stacy but not to you. I don’t care, said, Rose, because, I can work on it by myself, so, okay.

Now, let’s see what we can do said Rainbow with a wink to Kathy. Why you winked, asks Stacy. Just for fun. Okay. What we shall do, asked Rose. I don’t know. I know, we should all be together and decorate even more, said, Rose. But inside, Rose had jealous of Kathy. In the middle they rested and watched TV, ate chips and last but not least they ate sweets. Then, everybody started coming and then, they all started the New Year party.


It was almost time for cake cutting, while the four girls were talking Rose was proud of her wicked plan. But, the three girls know all about Rose and her wicked plan. Stacy was actually on Rainbow’s and Kathy’s team. But, Stacy acted she was on Rose’s team. And the three girls acted they didn’t know anything about Rose’s plan or anything else.

Then, it was time for cake cutting. Rose was thrilled and made a new plan. The new plan is to make lemonade and put portion inside and mix it, give it to the three girls.

Rose was actually a witch. So, she turned into a witch and she put portion and she shut the door, so no one could see her. But, Rainbow, Stacy and Kathy were very smart and silently open the door and the window. You may have a question, why did they open the door and the window? Because, the door only holds one person at time; so they opened the door AND the window.

When Rose was done, she repeated, Facely Facely Facely then, after few moments three girls knew, that meant Rose’s real name. After she was all done, everyone was asking the three girls, where is Rose? The three girls said, she will come back soon.


Finally Rose came back with her human costume. And the three girls acted as if they were talking with their friends. Rose, the witch, put blue portion in the cake when no one was looking. The three girls did not look, but they have this pink lotion to make them see what Facely was doing. They have good powers that the witch Facely or even Rose can not make the cake bad. But the witch did not know that the three girls put the lotion inside the cake. At last, she knew then she acted she is going to faint or die. The girls did not know this time Facely’s plan. And they told everything about Rose and her real name and everything else. She got hit, so, they did not care and were happy. Just then Facely, she was really a witch and the witch was in so disappointed mood, she decided to kill the girls. The girls did not know that. After the cake cutting the girls knew because they saw the witch doing magic.

I mentioned they had magic so they knew, after the party was done, the three girls went to Stacy’s house and were in deep thought. They thought how we are going to defeat Facely.

Now, back at the witch’s place, Rose knew the girls saw her wicked plan and her magic of course. Then, back at Stacy’s house, Rainbow was now feeling sad; because she was worried about how are they going to defeat the evil witch.


Now, when Rainbow was swimming down the ocean street, a sub (car) came and flashed Rainbow down. Kathy and Stacy were crying and everybody was taking her to the emergency hospital, except Facely and her wicked cousin sister Bafina.

Bafina is younger than Facely. Bafina and Facely had toasted sandwiches and ate cereal (mini wheats) and they were laughing and playing. Then, Kathy dressed up as a witch and knocked on Bafina’s door and said, why haven’t you come to help Rainbow and all that. Why we should go to rescue stupid little fish, said Kath. Yeah said Facely. Then, Kathy understood everything.

And she acted she was on Bafina’s team, actually Rainbow recovered and Stacy took care of Rainbow. Just then, when they reached Facely’s house, they got bombs and then, they shoot and the witches was dead. Everybody lived happily ever after.


The End.

Decision and Commitment using Discipline

There is a growing problem now-a-days with Decision, Commitment and Discipline. It has become a pandemic. Now don’t get me wrong; taking decisions is not a problem. But, after taking the decision, we have no commitment to continue or have discipline to complete it.

We take Decision to start things. Commitment is what puts us on the path to continue the journey. Discipline helps us complete the things, even the gets going tough.

Every day we take several decisions, like, when to wake up and retire for the day, how much coffee to drink and how many times, how to go to work, how to avoid traffic, what and how to attend meetings, what things to buy, what to cook and eat, whether to go out for dinner, what clothes to buy or wear, etc.

Some people are good at taking decisions on the New Year’s Day. They take radical decisions to alter their physique, change diet, to study further or to go to gym every day, etc. They do it (or just think about it!) for 15 days or a month, then, they call it quits. Why? Because, they don’t have the commitment to continue on whatever they decided on; while facing the initial hurdles.

Commitment wakes us up to keep up with our set goal. It gives us the fire in belly. It is the fuel to get moving in the direction to reach our post. This is where most of the people fail. How can we improve our commitment like the few who have it?

Simple. You need to alter your choices when you are taking decisions. If the decision is not right or not correct or does not resonate with you, your commitment levels will be automatically low. But, you will not know that the decisions you are making are not right for you. If you know, you will not make or take most of the decisions. You think that you are taking decisions based on your conscious awareness. No, when you take decision, you tend to involve your logical conclusions based on your estimation on yourself.

You need to involve your emotion while taking decisions. When you involve your emotions, it will trigger tight bondage between your decision and commitment to do it. This is the key. There is no other way. You got to bring your deep down emotions and put them to use while taking decisions. You cannot succeed without this step. That’s why mentors always say that Your Why should be stronger, then, How becomes easier or it will present itself automatically. When, the commitment becomes stronger, the discipline comes into picture.

You may ask do I really have to involve my emotions in all my decisions. No, it is not required. If you want your decisions to change what you are, how you will live, or related to life in general, then, it is mandatory to involve your emotions. Otherwise, you don’t have to involve any emotions.

We can look at some examples to understand it easily.

You want to clean your closet. This does not require involving your emotions or visualizations. It simply requires the decision to do it. Because, it does not give you anything more than a nice and clean closet satisfaction feeling than anything else. Of course, it might give you little confidence boost, but that’s it.

On the other hand, if you want to reduce your weight by 20 pounds, then, you need to sit down and think emotionally, how it feels to be 20 pounds lighter, how your clothing looks, what your loved ones say about you, how much self-esteem and confidence you will get, and all other positive things happen when you are slim. Not only this enhances your confidence, but also, it promotes your self-esteem multi-fold. Your perception changes due to your ability to take decision which alters your life.


We have seen when to involve our emotions and do not require them at all. But, it is essential to know when our emotions should not be involved at all while taking some decisions. Good example would be when we are talking about our finances. When, spouses or loved ones are talking about their financial situation, or future plans related to finances, they tend to be more emotional than normal. They never include their logical side of the mind to understand the math behind. They just get emotional. They take decisions on the heat. They do not think the consequences of their actions, when they are that emotional. This is very important to understand that at these times, we should not involve our emotions. This is negative side of involving emotions while taking decisions. If this happens you will be called emotionally imbalance person. Most likely, these types of decisions will lead you to repent later. By all means, everybody should take measures to avoid this situation.

Now, let us see how discipline helps us reach our goals. Discipline means, doing the same thing that you have taken decision to do. It is not beating, not scolding or cursing, not feeling guilty, not punishment or not timeout. It simply is doing (continue doing) the same thing (for which you have taken decision to do or reach) that you are doing time after time, even when it is boring to do, or getting difficult to continue. This gives you the ability to conquer the world; it is not conquering physically, but at intellectual level.

The biggest difference between those who achieve their goals and those who does not, is Discipline. The successful people know the importance of discipline. This is very powerful trait. Only way that we can master discipline is to twain ourselves strongly with our decisions. This will make a small thread link into a stronger rope and gives us the courage to reach our goals.

Love

Love is a phenomenal thing of life. Everybody loves. Everybody receives love throughout their lives.

Some people confuse between love and like. They feel both are same. You like things, you love people. You like some celebrity’s performance, you won’t love their performance. This is the simpler way to differentiate these two.

Even though people receive love from all sources, sometimes they don’t feel it. This is due to several reasons. One important aspect of this is their attitude / perception of things.

What is love and how can we define it?
Love is naturally felt. It is a sweet feeling inside. You laugh inside and smile outside. You feel at peace, happy and secure. We love kids, we love animals, and we love nature. When you receive or spread love, you feel enthusiastic, energetic and become open to the other person. You are suggestible. You tend to ignore your lovers’ mistakes. You do not get angry; you do not lose your control. You are not fearful. Your natural abilities express themselves in flow. You share all good you have with those you love. You will not be selfish.

Love is a powerful universal law. It can be used to achieve goals. This may sound strange, but true. Your relationships thrive as you share your love, which is foundation for Success in life. My brother always says, “You cannot conquer a person’s heart by fighting, but with love, you can”. This took several years for me to fully understand. And when I understood, my life changed dramatically.

How love can be used to achieve goals?
This is where the fun begins. The person who writes his goals or wants to achieve something means, he is already at a higher level, psychologically. He understands that he cannot achieve anything on his own. He needs to spread his strengths and receive his desired outcome, in return.
One of the basic elements for spreading the strengths starts with love. The beauty of love is such that, no matter how much you share your love with people, it will never diminish and in fact, it grows exponentially. So, this person never looks at other people’s actions critically. If other people are not able to achieve their goals, this person helps them achieve theirs, which in turn helps him to achieve his. The fundamental universal law that everybody born with; is Love. So, everybody is already a genius at this one. Proper utilization will give you the prosperity.

Use it wisely, and share with everyone. You cannot keep it for only few people, you need to share it with all. As much as of it you share, as much as of it you get. The more you give it to others, the more you get it from all parts of the world.

Where to start? I forgot to Love people long ago!
That’s fine. You never forget to love people. It is just that you forgot to express it properly. If you want to properly express yourself, start with kids. Slowly increase your feelings towards adults also, with sex no bar. When you strongly feel love inside yourself, you cannot hold it for long without expressing or conveying it to the other person. You may express your love using kind words, gifts, helping or just by spending more time with them. You will start reaping enjoyment from life; the moment you share your love with others. When you start expressing your love, you master another universal law, i.e., Law of Compliment. Always, one law leads you to another; as and when you master the first one.

It is never too late to express your true feelings of love.

Love, Love and Love. This is the fundamental aspect of life.

11 Universal Laws

Every country has laws. Every town, city, village has laws. Even every house has some laws. What is a law? Law is a specific rule that is created to reduce friction among individuals and or entities. There are several laws that dictate how we behave, or rather, should behave and interact with others. These are the laws that we, as human beings created for smooth relationship and for a peaceful life.

Then, what are universal laws? Who created them? Why do they exist? Overall, how many such laws exist?

Well, for some of these questions, nobody knows all answers, but for some, we know for sure.

What are Universal Laws?
These are the rules that this Universe abides by and runs on. For example law of gravity. If you walk on a terrace of a building and you walk on the edge to empty air, you will be pulled down, due to the powerful magnetic attraction of earth. This is called law of gravity. There are several laws like this that this Universe depends on to create, expand and destroy planets, stars etc.

Who created them?
This is a tricky question. No one is really sure about who created them. Some feel that these laws just exist. They were never created or modified, or will never die. Some feel that God created them. Some think that these laws have been created by big bang (energy created everything on this universe, including laws).

Why do they exist?
These laws are in-charge of looking after that there is no chaos in universe. If these laws do not exist, then, all the planets, stars will be smashing into each other, every now and then and life can not be created on. Also, these laws will take care about how much distance to be maintained and how each object (planets, stars etc) rotates (orbits) and how these objects are aligned etc. And of course, some of these laws direct us to manifest all our desires.

You may be wondering why some people are happy, prosperous, peaceful and in harmony with life and others. This is because they are practically implementing the universal laws in their lives. Of course, it might be that they are not aware of universal laws at all, but implementing and practicing are the two important things that make them what they are. Never ignore these powerful tools provided to mankind. Even if you do not believe that these will manifest great things in your life, understand them and try to put them in your life. It is guaranteed that anybody follows these laws will always be happier, peaceful and achieve all that life is to offer.

How many Universal Laws exist?
There are several of them exist. But, most important (yeah, there are no less import laws at all, of course) are 11. The following are the ones that we are interested in:

1. Law of Attraction
2. Law of Forgiveness
3. Law of Vibration
4. Law of Non-Résistance
5. Law of Allowance
6. Law of Compensation
7. Law of Increase
8. Law of Receiving
9. Law of Supply
10. Law of Thinking
11. Law of Cause and Effect (Law of Karma)

These days, every body is talking about Law of Attraction. Yes, this law is very powerful and you need to master, but the other laws are also equally important. Ignoring any one law will hamper your full expression of life.

So, it is in our best interest to learn, understand and put them to practice. I will elaborate each of these laws separately in future articles. I will provide simple steps to implement these laws into your life with no fluff and everybody can enjoy the fruits of life.

Compliment without Complaint

Whenever you want to compliment someone, do it so by heart. Never compliment to punish them, complain against them or to discipline them. Compliment with pure intention of praising their qualities or behavior. We see people compliment at the start of the conversation to criticize them in the middle and end the conversation with another compliment. These people think that they did a good job, not to bluntly hurt the other person, but rather conveyed their message across. This type of behavior is usually seen at offices and sometimes at homes with their spouses and kids.

Compliment gives encouragement to the other person to grow to their potential. When we love and respect the other person, compliment naturally follows to elevate their good qualities. Sometimes, compliment will bring the talent that the person has, to his own attention. They will be surprised that they don’t even know that they possess this talent, but, using compliment, we can let the person know and harness himself. When we love, we forgive their mistakes or even ignore them in the first place.

Overdoing & Misuse
Can compliments be overdone? Yes, when your intention is to get things done for yourself, but you need help from the other person, people misuse the weapon of compliment. They hone this technique powerfully. Some of the signs you can observe whether people trying to take advantage of this technique is to closely observe their intentions. They include words like “you have infinite potential, why do you waste? Do whatever I am suggesting; you will see rewards for yourself”. This is typical maneuvering the other person. If the intention is really to help the other person, they would say “I see infinite potential in you in this area, why don’t you pursue it further and help yourself achieving your goals and ultimately be useful to everybody?”

How is this problem cultivated?
I have seen numerous instances that people only praise the next guy, if they want something to get done by that person. We were bombarded with this stuff since our childhood. Our parents say, I will give you a choco or cookie or whatever; IF; and only IF you DO this; otherwise I am afraid, I will eat this etc. This might have worked for sometime to get the things done, but eventually, we are programming the kids with this kind of attitude, which is very difficult to change at teenage or beyond.

How can we eradicate?
The solution to this vicious cycle of passing it from generation to generation is to halt at this point of time in our lives and say, okay, I will only use this powerful technique with true intention of really praising and encouraging other people. See, for most of the things, we are just a decision away. Once we take decision, the implementation part will be easier and simpler.

This is my true intention to see all people using compliment just for one purpose and that is for complimenting.

Purpose of your life

Are you living your passionate life? What is the purpose of your life? Did you find out?

You can find several websites claiming that they will help you in finding out your passion, by providing some questions. They frame questions in pattern, and based on your answers; they “guess” your passion. What if they never pose any question on the core passion of your life? This type of help, does not give you peace of mind. You still feel that something is missing in your life. This indicates that you are not fulfilling the passion. It doesn’t mean that you are un-peaceful, but you are not peaceful.

To understand the problem with depending on somebody is well illustrated by this example. Assume your passion is Sharing. The gurus frame questions based on several aspects and subjects. Several of the questions are related to business also, which is also a type of sharing. So, you will answer questions related to business with lots of enthusiasm, which will trigger these gurus to come to a conclusion that your passion is business. You will be confused with what type of business you need float and what product to sell etc. And, even, after your business is successful, you still will feel that something is missing in your life. Your mind thinks about “something” to achieve.

On the other hand, questions like; did you get joy while helping your mom in your childhood? Did you feel that you wanted to help your classmates, your friends, your colleagues, your spouse, or anybody? These types of questions will provoke you to think deeply and inspire you to bring out your passion. Remember, this is only an example related to a single passion.

So, you will never be sure that somebody is covering all areas and subjects and are knowledgeable to tap into all subjects. You can get ideas and suggestions from gurus, friends and mentors; but, you need to sit down and think deep down to help your self; living passionate life. You get correct answer only by questioning yourself; in this matter. It may not occur to you the first day. It may take days, weeks or years for the aha moment. But once you discover, your life is never same again. You get immense joy and you look for ways to help others.

How do you know you are living a passionate life?
If your mind thinks about “something” and that it needs to do that “something”, you still are not living a purposeful life. Or, it feels something is missing, or I do not know what I need to do to get peace of mind, then, it is time to dig deep and get answers.

On the other hand, if it thinks that it needs to expand on “something”, which you are already doing, then you are living a purposeful life. You get peace of mind. You will not be after material things to get pleasure, but fulfilling your soul’s purpose, you will be happy and peaceful.

Everybody’s passion is different and unique. Bring abundance to this Universe with your passion and purpose of life.

Spirituality vs. Religion

What is Religion?
Religion teaches us how to live and about bhakthi (devotion) path. Bhakthi tells us to Surrender to God. It lets us to believe that there is one God. Some religions preach that even though there is only one God, you can worship in many forms and shapes, like Hinduism.

Religion gives us procedures and policies on how to live. Living is designed in certain way and the followers of that religion have to follow that path; otherwise, they are not part of that religion.

For example, if you are a follower of one religion where it does not preach you to pray God in any form or shape and you personally feel it difficult to pray by looking at air or by closing eyes without visualizing some form, then, you will be stripped off your stature from that religion.

Also, religion preaches to construct physical structures for people to gather and perform activities to please God.

What is Spirituality?
Spirituality is a concept of understanding other beings; let it be living creatures or non-living things. It tells us to see Us in other Things. It tells us that we are made up of the same matter as the other things including non-living things. It preaches us to have mercy at any living creatures. It also tells us that we need to elevate ourselves with consciousness.

It is Spirituality which gives us the awareness about universal laws like law of attraction, law of supply etc.

Spirituality tells us to gather together the like minded people to increase awareness about life and how to make it supreme life. It tells us that we need to live for others. It is Spirituality which teaches us to give more and live a purposeful life.

How Religion swallowed Spirituality?
In ancient days, Religion and Spirituality were two different entities. All religions were preaching only about God and how to reach Him using Bhakthi as a soft weapon. All the people, no matter which religion they belonged to; started understanding Spirituality. Then, the religious leaders took a copy of spirituality and made changes in words, terms and added religious flavor and made it compact and totally customized to reflect their religion. In this modern age, when you talk about Spirituality, people get confused with Religion. They think that you are talking about a particular religion.

As we know, Spirituality tells us to see ourselves in other beings, otherwise we will have imbalance in the Universe, this concept is customized by Religion, and it says, see God in all the beings; otherwise God will punish.

So, whatever you want to follow in this modern age, you are free to follow, but both will teach you to be more humane and gives you the knowledge to go to higher levels of awareness.


* Note * This article is based on fiction

What is Anger?

Anger – Everybody experiences anger. Some people may not realize that they are angry, like a kid whose toy has been snatched up by adult or other kids. How do we experience or express our anger? Sometimes, we express by harsh words, shouting, cursing or even physical beating (abusing). But, how do we feel inside? We feel ruptured at soul, ruptured at mind, we get heat at physical level, our breathing becomes heavier. We tend, not to think logical. We try to find ways to exhaust fumes out of our bodies. This is how we feel.

You might have heard about anger management. What do you mean by anger management? Do we manage our anger? We channel it certain way or at certain people, is that called management? Anger management teaches you how to suppress anger. Suppressing is not an answer. You need to eradicate some triggering events or change the outcome of these triggering events. How do you do it?

Lets’ take an example before attempting to control or get rid of anger.

It was a snowy day; it snowed for majority of the day. Next day, sun came out and melted some snow. Now, here on the surfaces where there is not much activity; will have black ice. Black ice is a thin layer of ice formed on the road, almost invisible in color, making it appear as regular road. Now, when you walk on the black ice, you will skid; can not stop at desired place; or even go out of control and finally fell down. This happens because, there is no friction between you and the road, ice is in between. Anger does the same thing to you. You lose control over yourself, you slip your tongue, and you can not stop your frustration, or even go out of control of yourself to physically abuse the other person.

Here is how you can control anger. When you are not angry, try to create a chat with you and an imaginary person. You know what triggers your anger. Try to simulate the same situation in your imaginary drama. See, how you feel, you really are turned on now. Now, take a deep breath and find ways not to express this anger in your mind. You will find several methods and ways on how not to behave the same way as you did in the past. Do not think that you will start using mind to plan out the anger before doing this practice; in a real life situation. This practice will give you the control over anger. Practice makes man perfect. Over a period of time, all the nuances and triggering events which cause your anger will melt away like ice in the sun. To do practice you need to put in the effort as any thought is energy and drains out your levels, including this mental drama. If you can not practice or postpone doing it, then you have what is called mental laziness. Only a decision can remove mental laziness.


So, take a decision, control your anger and start living life again!

Positive Thinking - Meaning

“This glass is half-full” – This is positive thinking according to many people including personality development gurus, and other motivational speakers. Whenever a person looks at “half-empty”, these gurus jump to conclusion immediately and say that’s the reason all the negative manifestations you have in your life. When did it become a negative thinking when a truth is expressed? Isn’t the glass full-empty to start with? If I say that “today is a cold day” in winter on a very cold day, do I become a negative person or a negative thinker?

Or for example, take this situation. There are four people and each of them is very hungry. They can each eat one full burger. They have only two burgers. How do they feel, or how should they feel after eating equally? They should feel that and be happy about that they at least are half-stomach-full? They will feel that they are still hungry. Don’t they? Now, all of them became negative thinkers, right? You got it plain wrong.

Let me explain.

Who came up with Half Full is positive thinking, and why? Did you understand it or just repeating? There is nothing wrong if you look at it as half-empty. The reason for that is it is not manifesting negative things for you in your life. But, if you look at problem or something wrong in each situation even though there is a positive to take, then, you need to revive your thinking. Acknowledge the negative in a situation, but, take any lesson that the situation is trying to teach you. This makes you a positive thinker. Just acknowledging the problem, or identifying a negative point in a situation, doesn’t make you a negative person. But, never be afraid of telling the truth, even if it is something negative. For example, if a person is drowning in a swimming pool, say it, just don’t say, he is half-outside, so swimming. Hope you catch the point.

Difference between failure and not achieving something

1. Representing of what happened is Truth; not telling truth is not necessarily a Lie. Intentionally misrepresenting the fact is a lie. If it not intentional then, it is called a mistake, ignorance or naïve.
2. In similar lines, not achieving something is not a Failure but is simply not Achieving the desired result. If you achieve then you are successful in that particular aspect. It is just that you are good at applying the concept of achieving in that particular aspect. Wow, How did you do that?

There is a contrasting difference between not achieving a goal verses failing. Let us dive into some of the differences and try to understand from different angles.

Not achieving a goal can be due to several reasons. You may be mentally tired thinking that it is difficult and do not act on the plan you have charted out. Thinking that, you do not have required skills to achieve. You do not have a written, concise and proper plan, you might think. You might think that you are not good enough; you still need to depend on someone to motivate or hold your hand to go beyond your current position. You did not even attempt once to achieve, probably. You have to play in order to win or lose. If you do not attempt, there is no question of failing, it is simply that you have not yet tried.

And now, the biggie.

Once my brother said, failure is not falling down but staying back. I understood it at intellectual level, but never really understood at a practical level. I also heard people say failures are stepping stones for success. All of us understand the concepts at intellectual level, but never try to put them in practice and perspective. Why? Because, this requires; changing our beliefs and or values about a particular aspect. For example, if you want to learn car driving, what is required to achieve this? You need to change your belief about traffic, your ability to learn etc. Changing belief about traffic – that, it is not a dangerous one, but rather it becomes potentially dangerous, if we do not abide by traffic rules and so on. So, by changing our view (perception) about it, we can change our belief. We create value towards learning car driving; as how important it is to us. If it is important to drive, then, it is of greater value. This value gives us the motivation to start learning. As we slowly learn the skill of driving, our belief starts changing about traffic and other things. Now, you can see the co-relation between belief and value. On the other hand, you can change your belief and your value changes. For example, you may believe that you are not good at earning money. You can change your belief to tell yourself that you attract the opportunities to earn more money. I assume that you are earning some money right now, at this very moment; that is you are employed. That tells that you are capable of earning money, which may not be very good amount in your opinion, but you do. You need to train yourself to tell yourself that you attract more money (it is recommended to have a fixed figure, instead of saying more money; you need to quantify) and you constantly keep repeating this as an internal picture, your belief changes. When your belief changes about earning money, it becomes an important aspect for you. As and when it became important, it became your value. Again, this value gives you the motivation and the ability to see the opportunities around to earn your desired income.

So, whatever you want to achieve or you failed at achieving, you simply need to alter either your belief or value and everything else will fall in place for you and achieving becomes a norm.

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